Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Children Having Children


We have a problem. A terrible issue plaguing society. It seems to be on the rise. You hear about a new case every so often.



It's not fatal, quite the opposite, really. I suppose you could say, that it's...natal.


Teen pregnancy. We all personally know a couple of young, unmarried, teens with bulging bellies, and uncertain futures.


Could you imagine? I'm 17, I'm young, and I have very little responsibility. I can hardly take care of myself, even, but a baby? No way, no how would I ever, in the near future, be able to care for another person aside from myself.


Don't get me wrong! I love babies! They're cute, even if their noses are constantly running, they're cuddly, and they're so easy to fall in love with.


I love babies, and I love holding them, cuddling them, and playing with them, and then I love giving them back to their mothers when I've had my fill.


I can't imagine having to worry about exams, school work, projects, extracurricular activities, jobs, clubs, volunteer work, my social life and then, on top of that, have to worry about this other small human being who's completely dependent on me.


I can't imagine what my parents would say, either. Growing up in a muslim household, I was constantly reminded that marriage came first, sex later. There was no hanky panky before the couple had committed themselves to eachother for eternity. And to them, having a child out of wedlock was the most shame you could put on yourself and on your family. So imagine if one day I came home and announced to my parents that I had gotten knocked up. Well, I'm just going to assume that a whole ton of shit'd go flying.


How would you be able to raise a child under such conditions? A 17 year old mother can't, alone, provide the kind of life a child needs, or even wants. And even if the father was a figure in their life, a minimum wage job with two pay checks are only going to bring in a meger 2,000, at the most. Considering most babies take up about $1,000 worth of supplies per month, that's not at all enough to sustain a decent, nourishing life for the parents and the child. And that's figuring if the father has anything at all to do with the child, which, sadly enough, in most cases don't.


If you'll notice, it seems that only a certain groups in every high school seem to get pregnant. My teacher explained that to us. It's not that these groups have sex more, or get pregnant more, it's just the way that they choose to deal with it differs. Athletes in school probably realize that they have too much to lose in having the baby. So...an abortion seems to be their only option. And it seems reasonable to say that those whose mother had a child out of wedlock would be more open to that idea than let's say, me, with the parents who can think of nothing else more shameful.


While the amont of teenagers having sex is on the rise, the amount of people getting pregnant is going down, probably due to safe sex vs. abstinence talks the nurse gives us. But are shows like 16 and Pregnant or Teen Mom putting teen pregnancy in a more positive light? Are they making it less unappealing? I really don't know the answer to that, considering I've never actually watched either of those shows. But it's something interesting to think about.

Friday, April 9, 2010

Cashiering


I stand and I scan and scan and scan.

And the lady in front of me with the Louis Vuitton wallet in her Dolce and Gabbana purse smirks at the lady in the comfortable tennis shoes with a baby balanced on her hip as she runs to the bathroom. She raises her perfectly plucked brow and glances at her daughter, and her daughter smirks back.

The store is unusually quiet for a Friday night. The fluorescent lights wash everything out and make the store look dull and depressing.

Everything is so monotonous. I was looking forward to getting off. Every minute counted. We turn our lights off 5 minutes before we're scheduled to clock out in order to give our designated lane a quick clean up.
I am set to leave at 7:15. It's 7:09 and I pray no customer comes to my lane.
The two lanes beside me are open, so I figure I'm safe.

Until said D&G lady comes through with her cart and a half order. I curse violently in my head. To her, however; I conjure up the brightest smile I can and proceed to bag her things.

The order takes me forever, and the lady with the overly tanned scrunched face stands there with a look of distaste coloring her expression, and a 13 year old girl, who I assume to be her daughter, with a blackberry, perfectly coiffed and colored hair, an unnatural tan, and manicured fingers at her side.

Five minutes later, her receipt prints along with some coupons. The receipt she takes. The coupons she immediately hands back to me stating she has no need for them.
K,btch.

Work is especially dull and life draining today.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

"To find out a girl's faults, praise her to her girlfriends."

-Benjamin Franklin

I usually get this particular feeling in the morning. After I've given up trying to make the flyaways on the top of my head lay flat or get the kinks out of my hair. After I had to redo my make up because I completely smudged it while trying to get the "itchy" out of my eye. When I'm standing in front of my closet, mountains of clothes before me, and I'm struggling to pick an outfit out for the day. When everything I try on makes me look fat, or makes my complexion look dull. When I'm stressing out because of a "she-said, he-said" sort of situation that these thoughts arrive.

Sometimes, it absolutely sucks to be a girl. All those crazy emotions. All that time spent on things that really don't matter, or rather, things that shouldn't matter. Money, time, effort, all spent (or wasted, depending on who you're talking to) on grooming ourselves to get a positive opinion from our peers and boys and even, just to please ourselves.

Because that's just how ambitious we are. We're happy with ourselves when we look good.

How could you not be proud?

Anyways, I think of a guy's morning routine. Or what I've heard of most guys's morning routines. How they wake up half an hour before school starts. Hop in the shower for ten minutes (they don't have to worry about shaving or the expensive five minute leave in conditioner). Pick something simple out to wear. And be done.

From who I've talked to, they don't worry about what to eat for breakfast in fear of overconsumption of calories. They don't worry about their make up being too much or not covering up enough, or whether skinny or flared jeans would go with their outfit the best. They're also not as caught up in silly high school problems. They're much more relaxed and able to just shrug things off rather than take everything to heart.

I don't mean to be stereotypical. I realize there are exceptions to every generalization or norm. But the vibe I get from guys as a whole seems to be a pretty appealing one.

Don't get me wrong, I love being a girl, for the most part. Enthusiasm and indulgence seems to be more acceptable in women. We're allowed to be vulnerable and emotionally expressive. We get to hug a lot more, and I feel like girls, in general, are more insightful and less oblivious than guys.


She's already up while he'll probably be sleeping in for a long while longer

The mark of AP-ness

256 dollars to take three exams. Three exams that aren't going to do much for me, honestly. The places that I'm looking to go to college doesn't even take the credits a 4 or a 5 would give me.

And that's just me, I know plenty of kids who are taking 6 or 7 or even 8 exams.

And the principal's on the announcements reminding us daily to register for the exam. She goes into a lengthy explanation on why taking the exams will escalate your career as a student. But most of her reasons aren't really reasons at all.
A) They'll get you college credit.
Uhh, yeah, at a select number of schools. A very small amount will give you the credits for the class that you took the exam and got a 5 on. Most schools will only accept 5's, and even less will accept 4's. None will accept 3's. So a 3's a passing grade, but it does nothing for you

B) Colleges will nod approvingly when they see that you took, wow ten exams when you were in high school.
Will it make your resume look better? Perhaps.
Will it be the difference between acceptance and rejection? I highly doubt it.

C) Good practice.
86 dollars to improve your test-taking skills guys! What a deal!

D) Broaden Your Intellectual Horizons
Need I say anything?

And if you opt out of taking the exams, well, then, sorry, but you're a screw up. Go fudge up some other school's statistics cuz we sure don't want your lousy numbers here! Go on, GO.

Me, personally, well I gotta say, I'm pretty gosh darn essited to be taking these tests. I mean, yeah I know, my parents and teachers will be harping on me to study. Yes, I know I'll probably look around at the papers and booklets and study guides that are strewn across my room, and I'll probably have a stress-induced mental breakdown, but I know that it'll be worth it in the end.

After all, three hours of test taking will surely leave its positive mark.